- May. 13 2020
A lot of people tell me that one of their biggest struggles when striving for a goal is that they cannot get away from the naysayer, the pessimist, or the “realist”.
Whether its a coworker, a family member, or even a spouse, here are five tips to keep your sanity and stay on track to reach your best life goals when those around you can be less than supportive.
1. Realize where it comes from – Jealousy
95% of the time, negativity comes from within. People become negative when they see someone else achieving that which they do not believe they could achieve themselves. Rather than letting it get you down, use it as motivation to keep on trucking.
2. If they don’t have anything nice to say, don’t talk about it
I know its hard when you are excited, you have a goal that you are in the process of achieving, you want to scream it from the rooftops. But if all you get in return is negativity, then just don’t share your excitement. Save it for those who want to help lift you up, not bring you down.
3. Make a list and check it twice
Make your own top 5 list of reasons why reaching this goal will change your life for the better. Every time you are faced with negativity, take a peak at that list to reinforce to yourself why you are doing this.
I am not too proud to admit that on my road to fat loss I have been known to have a picture of Jessica Biel in a bikini tucked away in my purse for those moments of weakness. Thanks Jessica for the inspiration. 😉
4. Find a confidant
Find someone who you can vent to, who knows your pain. Someone who can relate and keep you on track. In can be a spouse, a friend, an online forum of people with the same goal, your sister, or your brother’s girlfriend’s neighbor – whatever.
You need that non-judgemental anchor to go to when you are feeling down or less than motivated.
5. Last but not least, “just keep swimming swimming swimming…”
…As Dory from Finding Nemo says. Do what you know is right for you. Lead by example and as Mr/Ms Negativity sees your success, maybe just maybe, they will eventually follow in your footsteps.
Who knows, you may even start a negativity revolution.