- October. 18 2019
It’s an all too familiar story.
You set a goal. You start working toward it. You think, wow I’m doing pretty good—look at this progress! And then WHAM, you do something that throws you off track.
Rest assured you’re not alone. This kind of stuff happens all the time, for everyone. Why? Because we are human beings and it’s silly to think that we could ever go through life never having a moment of perceived failure.
And frankly, is it really so bad? Aren’t these things—these moments where you see yourself as veering off course—the most defining moments of all? It’s in these moments that you learn the most about who you are and what you want from life.
It’s in these moments that you learn what you need to know in order to attain the success you achieve later.
They are what teach you how to be that person that you want to be. They show you how you need to adjust and equip you with the skills and knowhow.
They give you the opportunity to get stronger, better, more in-tune with yourself. They give you the clarity so that next time, you’ll be quicker to make the better choice.
So, really when you look at it that way, the process could go no other way could it? And maybe those steps backward aren’t steps backward after all… maybe they are a half-step forward. Because it’s impossible for us to become less than what we are today, we can only become more, since we are always learning and growing.
We are always moving forward.
The majority of the reason why those perceived failures (what we’ll now call half-steps) feel so bad is because we set such rigid standards for ourselves, always measuring our progress against what we think we should be achieving or what somebody else is achieving. But when you relax a little, and just let yourself progress at your own rate (sometimes baby-step by baby-step at a time) the process can be fun and those half-steps don’t seem nearly as bad.
Lots of people like to set really big goals, and don’t get us wrong, there’s a place for big goals too. A big part of that thrill, that rush that comes with setting big goals, is in the stretch (i.e. growth, building, etc) of asking yourself the question of: Can I really do this??
Our point today is this: Give yourself a break. Set big goals if you like, but if you take a half-step here or there, chill out about it and allow it to benefit you in the way that it was meant to. Decide what it helped you to discover about yourself and then keep on truckin.
As long as you are alive you will always have the opportunity to set goals, so why not ease up a bit and enjoy yourself along the way?