- April. 19 2018
By Tommy B.
We’ve all felt the edge of discomfort and for some of us it comes on a daily basis. It’s that threshold of nervousness, fear and excitement – trying a new activity, showing up to a new social group, striking a conversation with someone new or even jumping out of an airplane at 10,000 feet.
In that moment, we have a simple choice: we grow and expand ourselves, stretching the proverbial rubber band of our life experience or sit back, miss out and go back to what’s familiar and routine.
In the process of studying anyone who has ever achieved a substantial metric of success, however they may define it – all roads lead to a simple conclusion:
Constantly being uncomfortable and taking action regardless of this feeling is the straight path to fulfillment, success and an incredible life experience.
In this post, we’re going to explore why this is so crucial and learn 5 ways to harness this power, become aware of it and obliterate it time and time again, discovering yourself through the process and looking back in awe.
If we think of the concept of leaving our comfort zone in the context of athletics and fitness, it’s quite simple to see how it works.
Early on, you have a set capacity – this is the limit of your current potential in this area of your life.
If you stay well below your capacity and never test it, your behaviors will become automatic, mechanical and boring.
Because they are no longer testing you, your body will stop adapting and stay in almost complete homeostasis – balanced but stagnant and never progressing.
Growth is exactly the opposite and requires us to inch closer and closer to our capacity and going to a place where we experience the powerful, universal force called resistance.
Resistance, as detailed unbelievably in Stephen Pressfield’s War Of Art, is a feedback mechanism that lets us know we’re doing something right.
Specifically, the emotions of fear and avoidance are signs that there is something incredible to be earned, achieved or learned by pushing through this force that holds most of us back.
The truth is, most people experience resistance and run away from it on a daily basis, using the amazing power of our brains to rationalize why it made sense to.
Think of one time in your life where you were compelled to have a conversation with a stranger – perhaps you were at a networking event or even at a coffee shop.
At the last second, you experienced resistance – doubts and thoughts about what the other person may think, if the context was right and maybe even if they would notice the stain on your shirt.
But you pushed through anyway and established a connection that was empowering and almost impossible to have even remotely imagined before you took action.
This small, seemingly insignificant example shows the power of pushing through and taking action regardless of how you feel.
Thoughts, feelings, moods and emotions are the four main mental triggers that hold us back from breaking through our comfort zones.
The truth is most people live in their own thoughts and heads, which are largely unexamined, meaning, we never ask the simple question:
Is that true?
Say, the person who wants to launch a business, gets passionate and excited with a business plan and recruits the help of others but then sets out on a Monday to start creating and may have the following:
“I can’t do this…”
“Who am I to create this?”
“I don’t feel great, I have low energy.”
We’ve all been there and it’s a daily experience.
What you need to know is that no one is immune to these self-sabotaging thoughts – from the highest achiever in your industry or anyone else you look up to who seems half normal and half out of the latest Avengers flick.
The only difference is answering the question:
Are you listening to these thoughts, feelings, moods and emotions?
As time goes on and your behavior transcends the four barriers, you’ll gain both momentum and confidence.
The voices of doubts won’t completely leave you, that’s impossible – but what will happen is they will be drowned out by positive and empowering ones instead and you’ll create an internal snowball of success that you’re able to prove to yourself time and time again.
The next step is to harness the comfort zone killer, which is simply to take action.
Susan Jeffers describes this in her book, Feel The Fear And Do it Anyway by saying:
“Every time you encounter something that forces you to “handle it,” your self-esteem is raised considerably. You learn to trust that you will survive, no matter what happens. And in this way your fears are diminished immeasurably.”
Taking action will begin to change the way you perceive and handle fear on a daily basis –both at a micro level and macro level for your life.
We’ve gone through the importance of stretching your life’s rubber band, continuing to practice by taking action and now it’s time to get practical so you can incorporate this into your life and not have it be more information that goes unused.
Here are 5 ways to start moving forward with getting uncomfortable in your life:
Most of us have seen how children operate on a playground: running, making friends, exploring and living in the moment.
They don’t have issues of self worth or overanalyzing what may or may not happen: they simply take action and keep going, all while having a pretty awesome time.
Many times when exploring what we don’t have or the reason why we’re still in the same place it can come down to the lack of expanding our comfort zones.
If we dig in and look at life – it’s designed for us to stretch, grow and learn from every single experience.
Start crafting your personal action plan to obliterate your comfort zone, smile at fear and start living the life you’ve imagined and have been waiting for…it’s yours to take.
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